Gods Gift to Women
Gods Gift to Women (90 minutes)
The 'chick flick phenomenon.'
1. Why are girls into boy bands and chick flicks, etc? Why do they swoon and literally feel like they are falling in love?
1. Guys may like to see movies with hot girls, but they don't want to marry them- they just want to have sex with them.
2. Girls actually daydream about marriage, and wan to know things like how many pets the actor has, and what his favorite colour is. They will even write letters to ask these questions!
2. Oxytosin.
1. Oxytosin is a hormone formed in women that creates a bond.
1. It is formed by breatfeeding, romance, sex, etc.
2. Movies and boy bands may actually create oxytosin in a woman, and make her want to “marry” people they don't even know!
3. Men and women were created for each other.
1. Women, even much more than men, go through their lives wondering who they will marry, what he will be like, etc.
2. When you get married, you will 'give yourself' to your wife.
3. If you were a father, and your daughter was getting married, what kind of guy would you want her to marry?
4. God who is all good and all knowing and loves your future wife more than anyone else in the world ever could... has chosen you to be the most important person in her life!
5. You are Gods gift to women! (Or, at least, to a particular woman!)
We were created to be a gift for women. We are supposed to give ourselves to them. This is love- giving yourself to another. The opposite of this is Lust- taking the other for yourself.
1. Theology of the body
1. JPII taught a lot about sex. He said that the way the human body was made reflects deeper realities about our spirits.
2. God chose to use sex to create more humans- which he could have done without sex. But he wanted to create humans from an intimate act of love between humans.
3. In sex, the man literally gives himself to the woman and she literally recieves him. Man is supposed to be a gift!
2. common struggles with lust.
1. Instead of giving ourselves as a gift, we try to take women and use them.
2. A lot of Christian men who are saving sex for marriage still struggle with lust in other forms.
3. Masturbating or looking at pornography may seem harmless, in that there is no victim, but we are still using women for ourselves rather than making sex a gift.
“virtue” as manliness
1. What starts out as a thought or one time action eventually becomes a habit.
2. If we have poor self discipline about sex when we are single, then we will have poor discipline when we are married.
3. As men, we need to develop virtues. The word 'virtue' comes from the Latin word “vir” which means 'man'. So to be virtuous is to be manly!
4. To become virtuous we must train ourselves. A lot of men will fast for example to gain self control.
5. If you struggle with lust, you may have to take drastic steps to protect yourself. You may even have to take the TV or computer out of your room!
Transformation in Christ.
1. Christ was 'fully God, fully man'.
2. Some say he would not really be fully man, because he never sinned
3. Everytime we sin, it takes something away from our manliness.
4. So Christ was actually the only 'real man' ever!
5. By being a Christian, praying, receiving sacraments and growing in virtue, we are becoming like Christ.
6. Christ was to transform us completely so that to be “Christian” will mean to be “other Christs.”
Honouring women.
1. lust- this is clearly dishonouring to women, because we treat them like objects.
2. flirting- Flirting and dating can be OK in the right circumstances, but we have to remember the oxytosin. Girls get a much bigger emotional bond through these things, which means it hurts them more when you don't end up dating.
1. Guys sometimes wish girls would just take them at face value, and see flirting as fun without reading too much into it. But girls can't because of their oxytosin! So flirting and dating without leading to a commitment is bound to hurt girls more than it hurts us. So if you want to honour women, make sureyour actions towards them communicate the truth.
3. respect
1. Men ought to honour women in a way that is even higher than the respect we give each other. Not only are we a gift to women, but they are the most precious gift that God can give us. So we should never take them for granted.
2. Look for little ways to honor women daily (let the guys brainstorm. Be sure to suggest that they carry the luggage for the ladies when it is time to go home on Friday.)
3. (have a plan ahead of time for how you can honour the ladies with the guys.)
4. Be a gift to women n everything you do.
Gods gift to women bracelettes.
1. Have bracelettes that say “Gods gift to women” for each of the guys. Challenge the guys to wear them, and to let them be reminders that they are a gift, and should live as such!
The 'chick flick phenomenon.'
1. Why are girls into boy bands and chick flicks, etc? Why do they swoon and literally feel like they are falling in love?
1. Guys may like to see movies with hot girls, but they don't want to marry them- they just want to have sex with them.
2. Girls actually daydream about marriage, and wan to know things like how many pets the actor has, and what his favorite colour is. They will even write letters to ask these questions!
2. Oxytosin.
1. Oxytosin is a hormone formed in women that creates a bond.
1. It is formed by breatfeeding, romance, sex, etc.
2. Movies and boy bands may actually create oxytosin in a woman, and make her want to “marry” people they don't even know!
3. Men and women were created for each other.
1. Women, even much more than men, go through their lives wondering who they will marry, what he will be like, etc.
2. When you get married, you will 'give yourself' to your wife.
3. If you were a father, and your daughter was getting married, what kind of guy would you want her to marry?
4. God who is all good and all knowing and loves your future wife more than anyone else in the world ever could... has chosen you to be the most important person in her life!
5. You are Gods gift to women! (Or, at least, to a particular woman!)
We were created to be a gift for women. We are supposed to give ourselves to them. This is love- giving yourself to another. The opposite of this is Lust- taking the other for yourself.
1. Theology of the body
1. JPII taught a lot about sex. He said that the way the human body was made reflects deeper realities about our spirits.
2. God chose to use sex to create more humans- which he could have done without sex. But he wanted to create humans from an intimate act of love between humans.
3. In sex, the man literally gives himself to the woman and she literally recieves him. Man is supposed to be a gift!
2. common struggles with lust.
1. Instead of giving ourselves as a gift, we try to take women and use them.
2. A lot of Christian men who are saving sex for marriage still struggle with lust in other forms.
3. Masturbating or looking at pornography may seem harmless, in that there is no victim, but we are still using women for ourselves rather than making sex a gift.
“virtue” as manliness
1. What starts out as a thought or one time action eventually becomes a habit.
2. If we have poor self discipline about sex when we are single, then we will have poor discipline when we are married.
3. As men, we need to develop virtues. The word 'virtue' comes from the Latin word “vir” which means 'man'. So to be virtuous is to be manly!
4. To become virtuous we must train ourselves. A lot of men will fast for example to gain self control.
5. If you struggle with lust, you may have to take drastic steps to protect yourself. You may even have to take the TV or computer out of your room!
Transformation in Christ.
1. Christ was 'fully God, fully man'.
2. Some say he would not really be fully man, because he never sinned
3. Everytime we sin, it takes something away from our manliness.
4. So Christ was actually the only 'real man' ever!
5. By being a Christian, praying, receiving sacraments and growing in virtue, we are becoming like Christ.
6. Christ was to transform us completely so that to be “Christian” will mean to be “other Christs.”
Honouring women.
1. lust- this is clearly dishonouring to women, because we treat them like objects.
2. flirting- Flirting and dating can be OK in the right circumstances, but we have to remember the oxytosin. Girls get a much bigger emotional bond through these things, which means it hurts them more when you don't end up dating.
1. Guys sometimes wish girls would just take them at face value, and see flirting as fun without reading too much into it. But girls can't because of their oxytosin! So flirting and dating without leading to a commitment is bound to hurt girls more than it hurts us. So if you want to honour women, make sureyour actions towards them communicate the truth.
3. respect
1. Men ought to honour women in a way that is even higher than the respect we give each other. Not only are we a gift to women, but they are the most precious gift that God can give us. So we should never take them for granted.
2. Look for little ways to honor women daily (let the guys brainstorm. Be sure to suggest that they carry the luggage for the ladies when it is time to go home on Friday.)
3. (have a plan ahead of time for how you can honour the ladies with the guys.)
4. Be a gift to women n everything you do.
Gods gift to women bracelettes.
1. Have bracelettes that say “Gods gift to women” for each of the guys. Challenge the guys to wear them, and to let them be reminders that they are a gift, and should live as such!
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